Relationships
Sometimes… just sometimes… an idea pops into my head.
So sue me – I’m not always the sharpest knife in the drawer… I’m socially awkward, and I rarely manage to express my feelings honestly. I work out in my head exactly how I want things to sound, how I feel, what I want… and then I open my mouth, and what comes out is completely different.
And I hear people say things, on TV, in movies, or in other relationships – things like “Nobody will ever love you like I do” or some such… crap basically. It’s the things people say when they’re hurt and scared, and it’s not real – obviously some people think it’s real, but it never is. Those are the words of a coward trying to scare someone into being with them, or staying with them.
The best part of a real relationship?
Knowing that someone is there because it’s what they actually, honestly want.
When someone wants to be there, you don’t have to worry about them running around on you, or betraying you – because they already have who they want, and they’re happy about it.
Just simply knowing, and letting someone else know that you have what you want, and you’re happy?
Why do I suck at that? Why do so many people suck at that?
Relationship or no, marriage even – people aren’t property – they’re a blessing… and finding ways to make them happy that you’re want they want – showing them that they’re what you want – that is what a real, healthy relationship is about.
Someone who’s afraid and threatened and unsure of what they have – it breeds jealousy and anger, and even violence.
If you’re with someone who would hurt someone for looking at you sideways – run for your life, seriously, because if they were really worth being with, they’d know better – they would know that what other people do is not the least bit important, because the only thing that matters is how the person they’re with feels.
And frankly, if the person I’m with doesn’t want to be with me?
They shouldn’t be.
And no amount of jealousy, or anger can fix or change that – if I’m with someone it’s because I want to be with them, and I want them to be happy – and if someone else makes them happier, then I’d rather they be with that someone else.
That’s what love is about – caring more about how someone else feels than how you feel… Wanting them to be the happiest they can be, even to the point of not being what makes them that way.
But always striving to be the best you can, and finding ways to let them know they matter, and what they want is important.
Any yeah – hoping that they want that with you – but if it comes down to it, being graceful if what they chose isn’t you.
Jealousy is for douchebags.
And, to be honest, I’ve been that douchebag before. But it will never happen again, because it’s dishonest, it’s cruel, and it’s unkind to someone you claim to love.
Here, my friends, is to never being that douchebag.
Cheers!